This belief is especially common among teenagers. In a study of twelve- to fifteen-year-olds, one in six reported having tried oral sex, and many of these denied ever having vaginal intercourse. A more recent study from the National Center for Health Statistics found that more than fifty per cent of the fifteen- to nineteen-year-olds surveyed had engaged in some form of oral sex giving, receiving or both. Not surprisingly, alcohol and drug use increase the likelihood that a teenager will try oral sex.
Premarital Oral Sex
Q&A: "Oral sex isn't sex" - Focus on the Family
Couples often ask, "Is oral sex a sin? Hebrews says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Non-married couples are not to practice premarital sex. The Bible never indicates exactly what a husband and wife are allowed to do in their sexual relationship. However, there are some sexual principles that we can consider.
Waiting for marriage before having sex wasn’t what I expected
When people want to justify a behavior that deep down inside themselves they know they shouldn't do, they will redefine terms that cast their actions into a better light. I've noticed in recent years that people, young people especially, are making the definition of sex more specific so that what they are engaged in doesn't fall under condemnation. Most people have at least heard that sex before marriage is sinful, so they state that foreplay heavy petting is not really sex. Surveys now show that many teenagers are convinced that oral sex is not really sex, even though the word appears in the phrase.
ELISSA grew up in the church and despite some pretty strong urges, decided to wait for marriage before having sex. This is her experience. I GREW up in the church.